The Mayers on Premier Gospel’s Family Hour

We were invited to be interviewed for The Family Hour on Premier Gospel Radio in the UK. If you don’t normally tune in, it’s a great station with awesome presenters and good mixture of Gospel music and talk. (Listen to the live stream)
We mainly spoke about our four month adventure in St Kitts, but also covered things like large families, marriage tips and other topics!

You can listen back to the show here

It’s always really weird hearing your own voice on the radio. I wonder if regular presenters feel the same way!

Was there anything we spoke about that you’d like to know more about? Or maybe something we didn’t cover but you’d love to ask? Let us know in the comments, via Twitter or Facebook


Hello There!


Thanks for visiting. You’re probably here as me and my family were recently featured in “Britain’s Favourite Black Newspaper”, The Voice.

I remember reading it on and off over the years as my Mum and Dad often buy it and now we’re actually blessed to be featured in it! Shout out to Marcia Dixon for asking us 😊.

My blog is a mixed bag of thoughts and observations but I’ve tagged all the St Kitts related ones so when you click the St Kitts link, it shows you all the relevant posts. Shout out to my extended family, far and wide, I love you all!

Just for fun, let me know in the comment section what brought you here, or connect with us on Twitter (Phil)Β and Twitter (Lisa)


Guess who’s back?

We’re back on cold and frosty UK soil! Brrrrrrrr. I’m going to be back blogging real soon, but in the meantime let me update you with how many things I’ve ticked off my list from the last post.

We’ve done pizza, and fish & chips so far. Trying to keep things healthy over here πŸ€”

Fast internet and constant mobile data, oh how I’ve missed thee!

And finally, life on the open road!

It’s good to be back, catch up with a few friends, re-arrange the house and all the good stuff.

Now it’s back to life…back to reality!

Lions & Tigers & Bats!

I shared this with my Facebook friends recently…


Have you ever been scared out of your wits but had to keep it together because you’re the strong one? That was me last night as a bat flew around my daughter’s room! Thankfully she was half asleep and thought it was a cockroach when she came to tell me, so that’s what I was armed for πŸ˜•. The way I backed out of the room like a stealth ninja when I saw it was a bat😲

Now, there’s prayer and there’s prayer!!! Does everyone find that SERIOUS prayers need a strong African or Caribbean accent? πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

But everything ended OK. No dads were harmed and the bat was escorted out of the room safely and quietly with no screaming from me😊

Note: I was too scared to take a picture in case the flash went and scared it again, so it’s just a bat off Google!

5 Things We’d Change If We Started Homeschooling Again

[BONUS POST] While our journey of home educating our children has been a great experience, there are a few things we would change. Here are 5 of them.

Your teacher knows everything, your teacher knows everything…

  1. De-schooling. When you’ve been involved in a cult for any length of time, you need de-programming so you can begin to make sense of things again. (Now whether you think the school system is a cult or not is up to you 😜). We didn’t really take any time out, other than the summer break to really do nothing, and have a good rest before figuring out how to move forward as parents, and what to do with the children. Our initial efforts were a bit too “school-like” for our family, but by God’s grace we have found a good balance now.
  2. Take more advantage of the flexibility. We have done things here and there but this extended 4 month holiday is a great example of things it’s almost impossible while your children are in school. We intend to do more!
  3. Spend more time grounding us all in the love of God. As we’ve matured as Christians, we’ve realised that behaviour based on rules and punishment can only go so far, where as a home based on the love of God, and love for one another brings a totally different dynamic. We now intentionally make a home a place of honesty and reconciliation, but it would’ve been awesome to have go this sooner.
  4. Spend more time working on character than academics. This flows out of point 3, but basically when you have a right heart towards schoolwork and know your parents’ hearts, things go much easier.
  5. Be a little bit more organised. We’re not too bad, but sometimes we don’t remember where we got some online material from if we’ve printed it out, or downloaded a pdf [content creators, please make it easy to go back and find your stuff!]. I’m the tech guy so I’ll figure this part out…which leads nicely to my next post about tech. This one is just the final final conclusion to the series you can find here: Part 1, Part 2,Β Part 3Β and Part 4

Until next time


Why Do We Homeschool? [Q&A Part 4]

So here we are at the end of this series on “Why Do We Homeschool?” and this one answers some of the BIG QUESTIONS as well as some that didn’t seem to fit elsewhere.


How much involvement do outside bodies (local council/government/etc) need to have? Do you have inspections or have to report to anyone?

In the UK, every borough has differing levels of involvement and attitudes towards homeschooling. It very much depends on which government is in power at the time and whether they are pro or anti home education. Outside bodies don’t NEED to have any involvement but there are often calls to change this as there have been some awful cases of neglect reported in recent years. They are the result of poor parenting rather than choice to home school and so we are still free to educate our children as we see fit without inspections or reports, at least for now. A majority of questions were surrounding this hot topic!

What if your kid wants to learn something that is outside your sphere of knowledge? How do you teach subjects that you don’t know/aren’t good at/never studied yourself? How does it work when they are older and when teaching gets more complex or challenging? How will you teach your teenagers their GCSE’s in all those subjects so that they can excel? In secondary school they have specialist teachers for each subject. How do you train yourself to be a specialist in each subject? At what point do you acknowledge your limitations (unless of course you are one of those people who are good at every subject) and get a personal tutor at home to teach them or at what point, if any, would you send them to secondary school? Do they still take exams or another form of assessment?

LM: Good questions! Every homeschool parent and child has to work these ones out. Of course we cannot provide a fully comprehensive all round scope of education by ourselves, so we’ve tentatively said, as long as employers can see that they can read and write, we’ll help them all to get maths and english GCSE, and maybe a science one as their core subjects.
It’s totally possible to teach GCSEs from home, particularly if you covered the subject as a child yourself. There is no shortage of material such as free resources, past papers, and study guides. It just takes some swotting up in a subject before you teach as a parent. Sometimes a few of us homeschoolers club together to give our children small group tuition. 

Where they’re interested in something out of your depth you pray for God to provide opportunities/experiences/tuition and normally He does. PM: Our job is to make sure our children are educated, not that we do 100% of the tuition ourselves. LM: When I panic and think #ohmygoshamifailingmychildren I remember that Jesus never took one GCSE but completely changed the world, He never did drama class or extra courses in psychology or political science but had to completely rely on His Father for what He needed. Will they still reach their full potential? I still believe so, just not taking the usual route and timescale you’d expect. PM: The typical route of GSCE, A-Levels,Degree = “High Paying Job For Life”is a myth. There are often other routes to achieve your end goals, so investigate them! Consider how much of your education you use on a day to day basis
LM: Also, taking less subjects means their time can be more tailored to what the children actually enjoy and have an inclination towards. At the moment mine are hard at work studying Snapchat, Instagram and ooVoo! Keeping in touch with their friends is all-important right now while we’re 3000 miles away.

For children/parents who feel they must finish school with 9-11 GCSE’s they can always be enrolled in Secondary school from around year 9-10. I think that’s the most common option. We’re hoping our eldest will go to the local college that now accepts 15 year olds to take a few important GCSEs. Also looking at apprenticeships and work experience this year as no-one is really sure what they want to excel in yet.

Sorry for the ramble, but I hope this makes some sense.

What happens when they get to Uni age? Or can you homeschool to degree level? What are the older kids thinking about university? What would they like to study?

LM: You can home educate to whatever level you like if you love your subject and can make the time. In the UK the legal obligation is from 5-16 so we have one more year to go with our oldest…just 6 more to go, by the grace of God!

PM: One would like to study painting and drawing and acting, one doesn’t know if they want to go to university, but might do an apprenticeship or something as they are aware that isn’t the only route to success, and one has no idea at all!

Thanks for waiting a bit longer for this weeks post. And thanks again for asking such great questions and reading until the end of the series. For easy access, here are the links for Part 1, Part 2Part 3 and the bonus blog, Part 5

The next few posts will probably be on the challenges of technology 😐.

As always please share and ask any more questions in the comments.

Until next week


3 Things I’m Grateful For

Β Life is very different in St Kitts. Now if I was organised, I would have 16 things to be grateful for in 2016, but because I’m not (yet), I’m just going to do 3 (aka 3 Things I Take For Granted in the UK).
1. Running water (which is sometimes hot).

There are a couple of different reasons this one makes the list. Over here, the water sometimes goes off at night and the pressure is variable anyway, which affects whether or not the hot water kicks in! Not every home here has a water supply so standpipes are a regular sight here too.

2. An Internet connection

As someone who uses the Internet every now and then 😊 I’m truly grateful that I can keep up to date with what’s going on in the world and keep in touch with friends. A couple of noticeable differences though. The Internet is SLOW. Currently 2Mbps (but moving up to 6Mbps soon) compared to the 50Mbps I’m used to at home. But hey, give me warm weather and slow internet over cold weather and fast internet any day.

3. Electricity

We had our first power cut recently. No electricity means no wifi, or charging devices, or using a microwave, or having lights. It’s another one of those things that are “just there” ready for you to use whenever you want, so when it’s not there, you really do feel it.

So if you have hot and cold running water, an Internet connection and electricity, recognise that you are blessed!

What are you grateful for?

Oh, and here’s one of my favourite tunes. Grateful (Fanatix Remix) by Dennis Ferrer & Kenny Bobien.


Living off the Land


One of the things that is noticeably different about living in St Kitts is the abundance of food that either grows nearby, or can be supplied by a neighbour (often they just bring things round for you).



So far we’ve had breadfruit, bananas, coconuts, pumpkin, starfruit, breadnuts, yam, oranges, peas and watermelon all for free!



Some veg still has dirt on it, or is shaped strangely, but organic is much more tasty. Coconut water fresh from the coconut is much nicer than anything I’ve bought from the shops.

To be continued…



I was tidying up my blog a little bit and realised that I haven’t posted about our 7th little blessing! I do still blog, just not here very much so follow me on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter for breaking news 😁

So our 4th daughter Baby A was born in June 2014. Her name means “made by God” and she’s still the happiest, babbliest baby and flourishing as she is surrounded by love 😍

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